Boys Don’t Cook!!!

I am hoping that you are one of those people who got provoked with my title as to “Why shouldn’t boys cook??” then Bingo!! You are on the right page.

Once again thank you for taking the time to read my post. After meeting many women out there, I decided to write this post. In fact, I am a bit dazzled and infuriated with some of the women that set in motion to write this article. I have written a story that closely describes what is in my mind. 

Here goes the story...

Swetha is all dolled up and happily moving around friends and family on the day of her engagement party. She had met  Suraj probably twice before. He was now holding her hand and walking her around lovingly. Swetha was an MBA holder, and was now working as a Senior Manager in an MNC. Her parents had done the matchmaking for Swetha and concluded that by all means Suraj was the best fit.

Suraj’s mother brings along a small group of relatives and proudly introduces Swetha to them. Slowly after the crowd disperses, Swetha speaks on a very casual tone “So Suraj, Do you cook?” Even before Suraj could open his mouth to answer, his mom interjects. Happy and proud she answers “Oh Swetha, your joking right, The closest he has come to cooking is boiling water at home honey. He only visits the kitchen to talk to me. My son does not do cooking or any other chores. He is our darling boy, we have not given him any of those trouble. I am sure you know to cook good South Indian dishes, because Suraj loves those. And since you guys will be living alone, you will have to take care of all the household also” she finished. 

Hiding all the astonishment towards the atrocities her future mother-in-law had put forth, Swetha managed to put a smile on her face and carry on with the evening.

OK, now let me not beat around the bush and get straight to my point. I want to make sure that I am no feminist. It is just out of sheer concern for my fellow women that I am sharing this opinion. It is not intended to hurt anybody’s morale or ethics. 

·      Mothers - 

     Please raise your daughters and sons justly. When you teach your daughter to cook, please teach the same to your son. When you teach your daughter how to take care of her own things, teach the same to your son.

·      Boys do not cook! It is absolutely a stigma that is still creeping and lurching our society that needs to be eradicated. There is nothing to be proud of the fact that your son cannot perform any household chores. In fact, you need to feel bad for having raised a child that way.

·       Ladies - 

     You may be educated, uneducated, working, homemaker – Always feel confident and good about you. Make your partner a real partner! Marriage is about two people coming together and helping each other.

·      Do not let guilt kill you! Do not listen to unwanted idiocy of others and succumb to guilt of having to ask your husband to share your load of work. You are not entitled to do everything yourself. You husband is a part of your life.

·       Learn to imagine beyond the rudimentary. Do not convince yourself that finding the perfect guy and making a family is the ultimate quantum in life. (No offence meant here. The family is nevertheless the best thing you can have). It would be great if you could also think of an identity for yourself apart from that. Something that would make you you!!

     Men Folk - 

·       A woman is your better half! She is there to share your life and life’s experiences and be a part of both good and bad. She was not raised for the sole purpose of taking care of you and your household. She has her dreams too. 

I believe that women need to be courageous and think beyond the conventional. Sharing your household work with your partner is not an evil act. Dreaming of a greater and bigger future is not a sin. Let us create the phrase “Behind every successful woman, there is a man!”

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. Please do share your views as comments.